Pointless traditions still existing in my region

I shall be talking about the ones existing in my region i.e. rural northern Rajasthan & western Haryana ( i.e. baagar).

(All the mathematics & economics written here lies in lower middle class context.)

•  (For ladies) You must put on your veils ( have ghoonghat) in presence of all men & senior women at your sasural . By sasural I mean the entire village. It's considered a sign of respect. But in your maayka, it's not needed. They have known your respect since your birth. It's a bit difficult to understand how men can always ghoonghatlessly express respect towards others.

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•  Everytime you visit your daughter /granddaughter in her sasural, you must give 50 or 100 rupees to her, her saas( सास), kaaker saas, taayer saas, maamer saas, buaaer saas, all saas', her nanads and other married/unmarried girls around. If you r a boy yet & happen to visit your sister in her sasural, you must give 50 or 100 rupees to each of her offsprings; if you are a man , you give 100 rupees to each of your sisters & 10–20 rupees to each of their offsprings.
•  (For women) Everytime your daamad(s) ( janwaai/jamaai) visits your home, you must tilak him with 500 rupees and your saas, your devranis & jethanis must tilak him with 100 rupees. If the daamad is 5 yrs + (older), you can make it 200 & 50 rupees respectively. The whole event of tilaking him & giving money is called 'joonhari'.
•  (For men) Everytime your daughter /niece /sister/cousin departs for her sasural, you must buy her(them) a good suit/dress and your wife gives her 50 rupees. For niece/cousin , it can be lowered a bit.
•  In the wedding of your daughter, the next morning , you give the groom side about 2–7 lacs rupees of cash ( if possible a car or a bike or a buffalo too) as sumtani and luggage worth of a few lacs including beds, cooler, refrigerator, washing machine, milk curd machine, sandook, dressing mirror system, all sorts of utensils, sofa set, suitcases, TV, iron, mixer and countless no. of other small - big things……..as if the man was living in forests so far.
• If you have many daughters/ sisters , you will be spending most of your lifetime in calculating how much to give whom & finding out if someone in larger family isn't happy about 'how much' you gave them in a particular family event.

Correct my mathematics if gone wrong somewhere.

Whenever I try to know from my elders why groom side isn't equally ‘charged', only answers I get are: “that’s what tradition is. You alone can do nothing about it”, “if it doesn't go the way it's going , things look ugly” or the worst, “is this what we are educating you for ? Lame questioning! This boy knows only books & nothing of family making.”

Also adding a few widely prevalent beliefs there :

• (For teenagers) Talking on daily basis to some opposite gender on phone or otherwise is seen as some ' flaw in character'.
• People earn & gather wealth to mainly spend it on their daughters' wedding ( in form of dowry ), on bhaat ( weddings of their sisters' offsprings), god गोद or गोदभराई ( occasion of fixing the date of their daughters' wedding) , chhuchhak ( celebration of birth of a son to their daughters) and it goes on.
• The amount of cash in dowry ( called sumtani ) is considered the matter of your reputation in the sphere of relatives & villages around. It's a norm to try to give bigger & bigger dowries in weddings of your younger & younger daughters.
•  Women dancing in wedding/ festival - celebrations out in street on DJ in their sasural is considered shameful and brings aspersion. DJ is for men… to dance on “ Tu cheez lazwab , tera koi na jwaab ./ Tere laad krunga thaade../aa jajban pani ne chaali”. Aangan is for women, to dance on their ages old songs “mere re karm mein bawliya likhya tha.”
•  A man is always considered to have more responsibilities , perhaps by the intention of mother nature herself, so naturally he deserves more corporation & respect.
• It's believed, it's the job of elderly men in home to find suitable life partners for young members , and they often manage to do the deed on/before ‘time'. Elderly women help them in choosing the 'right' mates for their kids.
•  If the groom is a govt employee or any good private employee, he deserves stronger dowry than a farmer groom.

•• But things are changing on a tremendous rate . It's visible..more and more.. every other day , to a point that elders say , “ Very bad , naked and ugly times are coming.”

EDIT :

The only logical reason (behind excessive money outgoing from bride side) I could get by talking to many elders at my place is that daughters have equal rights in home. She is leaving the home once she gets married & is giving her part of land & property to her brother(s) hence it's a duty of brothers & father to gift her (/her new family members) something or other on different occasions as much as possible.