Some unpopular opinions I hold

I see myself changing my opinions about the same things many many times over the years. That's why , perhaps, I never hold strong opinions on anything. Talking to my friends, teachers here & people at the village I see the following ones as somewhat unpopular. Will try to add more when comes to mind.

• I used to believe, human sex too has very little to do with emotional & psychological side of the being like any other mammal. It's fundamentally just physical. Most people are just under cultural/ social pressure when they don't admit pure anamalistic/ wild nature of human sexual desire. 

But no, my opinions have changed. I don't think you can divorce the sexual encounters from the humanity, emotions and feelings of your partner. He/she isn't like a sweet that your tongue can have taste of whichever way you like. There comes the 'humane' part of our seemingly anamalistic sexuality. Your sexual partner (given that he/she has gone intimate with you to this extent) is much more for you than a mere configuration of sex organs. And the same goes for him/ her. 

• Children should get more attention when they are joyful & excited about things around. I have often seen that whenever child is dancing in his own mood , singing out his joy & making that typical childish noise, elders tend to scold him. It's considered not good or even uncivilized at times.

On the other hand, when child falls sick, suddenly he receives much attention from family members …to a point, he might start pretending to be sick, coz u r sending a message , “ its okay to fall sick once in a while. It's 'natural.”

No , it's not. It's natural to be healthy & be joyful not to be sick & miserable. At that stage , I think, what child needs is definitely care & caution ..but from a little distance. He must realize how important being healthy is. This inculcates responsibility in him I believe. Join the ‘joy' . Take care of the 'misery' and illhealth.

• Judging a person from his ability to communicate & body language, often leads to dismissing his real talent as not worthwhile . Genius, often hasnt much to do with language & ability to express.
• IITs shouldn't just recruite good researchers but also good ‘teachers' & humans.
• It's okay if you choose to spend some of your money on other things that you think will be worthwhile , rather than spending high amounts on bhaats of your sisters and dowries of your daughters.
• There is no point of glorifying your past or taking pride in its science and culture when one can't see any sign of the same in your way of living. Why should one care about your past , when you yourself are nowhere near what you have been talking about, the great past.

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